Snappy. Moody. Emotional.
Sound familiar?
You’re in the kitchen. Or the car. Or on a call. Something small happens (something that on another day you’d not really care about) and suddenly you’re sharp. Short. Done.
And then someone says it.
“Are you on your period?”
And you want to throw them through a wall.
Because actually? You’re not.
But maybe. Just maybe. You’re about to be.
I know that moment because I’ve lived it. The snap. The cry that came out of nowhere. The desperate confusion of not understanding why I felt so unlike myself. And then, days later, the bleed that explained everything.
For years I was always a few days behind myself. Always finding out after the fact why I’d felt what I felt. Always apologising for something my body had been trying to tell me all along.
Cycle awareness changed that. Not immediately, not perfectly. But slowly, I stopped being blindsided. I started to understand what my body was telling me before the moment, not after it.
Your body has been speaking to you. You just haven’t had the language.
Here’s what they should have taught us in school. Especially if you went to an all girls one like me — you’d think the teachers would know more, right?
In the pre-menstrual phase (your inner autumn.)
Your intuition is at its sharpest. Your tolerance for what isn’t working drops right down. The things you’ve been quietly pushing past, in your relationships, in your work, in yourself… start to surface. Loudly.
That’s not you being difficult. That’s your body asking you to pay attention.
But when you don’t have the language for what’s happening physically, all you feel is the emotion. The sharpness. The overwhelm. And without context, it just looks like you losing it.
Cycle awareness gives you the context. It gives you the physical language first, an understanding of what’s happening in your body, why your nervous system is more sensitive right now, why you need more space, more rest, more quiet. And when you have that, something remarkable happens.
You stop calling yourself too much. You start recognising the signal.
Cycle awareness gives you the language.
Not just the words to share with other people. The language to understand yourself first.
When you know which phase you’re in, you stop trying to interpret your emotions from the outside in. You start understanding them from the inside out. You know why you need more space. You know why everything feels louder. You know why rest isn’t laziness right now, it’s exactly what this phase is asking for.
And then, if you want to share that with your people? You can. But here’s the thing… they’ll notice either way. When you understand yourself more deeply, it ripples out. You don’t have to announce it. They just feel the difference in how you show up.
For me, the way I find that language is through breath. Sitting in each phase, breathing into where I actually am, noticing what’s there. I write it down. I sit with it. And I share it when I want to. Not because I have to. Because I finally have the words.
That’s what this work gives you. Not a script. Not a system. Just a way back to yourself.
One of the women on my Breathe With Your Cycle programme put it in a way that stayed with me:
“It’s already changed how I speak about myself and how I communicate my needs, especially with my husband. Even he has felt the shift. And the impact on how I show up for my daughter — she’s only 5, but I’m already passing this knowledge on in small, meaningful ways.”
She didn’t hand her husband a guide to her cycle. She just understood herself more deeply. And it rippled out into everything.
This is what Breathe With Your Cycle gives you.
Eight weeks of sitting in your cycle, breathing through each phase, and finding your own language for how you feel. A small, intimate group of women doing this work together. Weekly live sessions every Wednesday.
As I write this, the doors to the next round close Sunday 27th and there are just 5 spaces left.
If this is resonating, if you’ve had your own snap, cry, bleed, OH YEAH moment and you’re ready to stop being a few days behind yourself, I’d love to have you in the room.
Payment plans available. Subsidised spots available. Everyone deserves access to this work.
A note: the inner seasons framework originates from the work of Red School. What I’ve shared here is archetypal, a helpful map, not a rigid rulebook. Your experience of each phase may look and feel completely different, and that’s not only normal, it’s expected.
